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<html><body>PHILOPHOBIA - H&#7896;I CH&#7912;NG S&#7906; Y&Ecirc;U&nbsp;B&#7841;n lu&ocirc;n t&#7921; h&#7887;i t&#7841;i sao c&oacute; nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i h&#7885; lu&ocirc;n t&igrave;m ki&#7871;m t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u, nh&#432;ng khi t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u &#273;&#7871;n th&igrave; l&#7841;i &hellip; ch&#7841;y m&#7845;t d&eacute;p ??? &#272;&acirc;y ch&iacute;nh l&agrave; Philophobia hay c&ograve;n g&#7885;i l&agrave; h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng s&#7907; ph&#7843;i y&ecirc;u.&nbsp;B&#7845;t k&#7923; ai tr&ecirc;n th&#7871; gian n&agrave;y &#273;&#7873;u mong mu&#7889;n c&oacute; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i quan t&acirc;m v&agrave; y&ecirc;u th&#432;&#417;ng m&igrave;nh b&#7857;ng c&#7843; tr&aacute;i tim. T&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u l&agrave; m&#7897;t m&oacute;n qu&agrave; di&#7879;u k&#7923; m&agrave; b&#7845;t k&#7923; ai &#273;&#7873;u kh&aacute;t khao c&oacute; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c. Tuy vi&#7879;c r&#417;i v&agrave;o l&#432;&#7899;i t&igrave;nh c&oacute; v&#7867; r&#7845;t h&#7845;p d&#7851;n, song, v&#7899;i m&#7897;t s&#7889; ng&#432;&#7901;i, vi&#7879;c y&ecirc;u m&#7897;t ai &#273;&oacute; l&#7841;i kh&aacute; &#273;&aacute;ng s&#7907;. Nh&#7919;ng n&#7895;i s&#7907; v&ocirc; c&#7899;, nh&#7919;ng m&#7889;i lo &acirc;u v&#7873; vi&#7879;c ph&#7843;i y&ecirc;u m&#7897;t ai &#273;&oacute; &#273;&#432;&#7907;c g&#7885;i l&agrave; h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng s&#7907; y&ecirc;u (Philophobia).&nbsp;T&#7915; Philophobia b&#7855;t ngu&#7891;n t&#7915; t&#7915; &ldquo;filos&rdquo; trong ti&#7871;ng Hy L&#7841;p, mang ngh&#297;a y&ecirc;u ho&#7863;c &#273;&#432;&#7907;c y&ecirc;u. Ng&#432;&#7901;i m&#7855;c h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng s&#7907; y&ecirc;u lu&ocirc;n c&#7921;c k&#7923; t&#7881;nh t&aacute;o tr&#432;&#7899;c b&#7845;t k&#7923; h&igrave;nh th&#7913;c g&#7855;n k&#7871;t y&ecirc;u th&#432;&#417;ng v&#7899;i m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i v&agrave; h&#7885; c&oacute; xu h&#432;&#7899;ng tr&aacute;nh &#273;i m&#7885;i s&#7921; li&ecirc;n k&#7871;t v&#7873; m&#7863;t t&igrave;nh c&#7843;m. Nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i m&#7855;c h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng n&agrave;y lu&ocirc;n t&igrave;m m&#7885;i c&aacute;ch c&oacute; th&#7875; &#273;&#7875; tr&aacute;nh m&#7885;i s&#7921; h&igrave;nh th&agrave;nh t&igrave;nh c&#7843;m, g&#7855;n b&oacute; ngay k&#7875; c&#7843; khi trong ch&iacute;nh b&#7843;n th&acirc;n anh &#7845;y/c&ocirc; &#7845;y t&igrave;nh c&#7843;m &#273;&oacute; &#273;&atilde; &#432;&#417;m m&#7847;m. &#272;&acirc;y c&oacute; th&#7875; l&agrave; m&#7897;t v&#7845;n &#273;&#7873; nghi&ecirc;m tr&#7885;ng khi n&#7895;i &aacute;m &#7843;nh n&agrave;y s&#7869; d&#7851;n h&#7885; h&#432;&#7899;ng &#273;&#7871;n m&#7897;t cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng&nbsp;M&#7897;t s&#7889; nguy&ecirc;n nh&acirc;n ch&#7911; y&#7871;u c&oacute; th&#7875; khi&#7871;n m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i m&#7855;c ph&#7843;i h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng s&#7907; y&ecirc;u l&agrave;:&nbsp;Tr&#7843;i nghi&#7879;m kh&#7911;ng ho&#7843;ng tinh th&#7847;n trong qu&aacute; kh&#7913;&nbsp;H&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng s&#7907; y&ecirc;u c&oacute; li&ecirc;n h&#7879; m&#7853;t thi&#7871;t v&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng tr&#7843;i nghi&#7879;m kh&#7911;ng ho&#7843;ng tinh th&#7847;n trong qu&aacute; kh&#7913;, th&#432;&#7901;ng li&ecirc;n quan &#273;&#7871;n t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u v&agrave; nh&#7919;ng m&#7889;i quan h&#7879;. N&#7871;u m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&atilde; t&#7915;ng kh&ocirc;ng th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng trong c&aacute;c m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; &#7903; qu&aacute; kh&#7913;, v&iacute; d&#7909; nh&#432; &#273;&atilde; t&#7915;ng ly h&ocirc;n; c&oacute; th&#7875; g&acirc;y ra n&#7895;i &aacute;m &#7843;nh s&#7907; y&ecirc;u cho ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&oacute;. H&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng s&#7907; y&ecirc;u c&ograve;n c&oacute; th&#7875; l&agrave; k&#7871;t qu&#7843; t&#7915; vi&#7879;c ph&#7843;i ch&#7913;ng ki&#7871;n nh&#7919;ng th&#259;ng tr&#7847;m trong &#273;&#7901;i s&#7889;ng h&ocirc;n nh&acirc;n c&#7911;a b&#7889; m&#7865; t&#7915; khi c&ograve;n b&eacute;. Th&ecirc;m v&agrave;o &#273;&oacute;, ch&#7913;ng ki&#7871;n c&#7843;nh m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c tr&#7843;i qua chuy&#7879;n t&igrave;nh c&#7843;m &#273;&#7847;y s&oacute;ng gi&oacute; c&#361;ng c&oacute; th&#7875; khi&#7871;n m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i c&#7843;m th&#7845;y &#7843;m &aacute;nh v&#7873; vi&#7879;c ph&#7843;i y&ecirc;u m&#7897;t ai &#273;&oacute;.&nbsp;Chu&#7849;n m&#7921;c v&#259;n ho&aacute;&nbsp;Trong nhi&#7873;u n&#7873;n v&#259;n h&oacute;a t&iacute;nh ng&#432;&#7905;ng, chuy&#7879;n y&ecirc;u &#273;&#432;&#417;ng &#273;&#432;&#7907;c xem nh&#432; m&#7897;t t&#7897;i &#273;&#7891;. Nh&#7919;ng t&iacute;n &#273;&#7891; c&oacute; th&#7875; r&#7845;t xem tr&#7885;ng c&aacute;c m&#7913;c &#273;&#7897; h&igrave;nh ph&#7841;t t&agrave;n b&#7841;o d&agrave;nh cho h&#7885; khi nh&#7919;ng chu&#7849;n m&#7921;c n&agrave;y b&#7883; ph&aacute; b&#7887;. &#272;i&#7873;u n&agrave;y c&oacute; th&#7875; t&#7841;o n&ecirc;n s&#7921; s&#7907; h&atilde;i, &acirc;u lo v&#7899;i m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i v&#7873; vi&#7879;c &#273;em l&ograve;ng y&ecirc;u th&#432;&#417;ng.&nbsp;&Acirc;u lo phi&#7873;n mu&#7897;n&nbsp;M&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i c&oacute; th&#7875; c&#7843;m th&#7845;y t&#7921; tin v&agrave; c&#259;n th&#7859;ng khi &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;&#7863;t trong m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; y&ecirc;u &#273;&#432;&#417;ng, tin t&#432;&#7903;ng l&#7851;n nhau n&#7871;u anh &#7845;y/c&ocirc; &#7845;y &#273;&atilde; t&#7915;ng suy s&#7909;p tinh th&#7847;n. S&#7921; &acirc;u lo, mu&#7897;n phi&#7873;n c&oacute; th&#7875; khi&#7871;n l&yacute; tr&iacute; y&#7871;u &#273;i v&agrave; &#7843;nh h&#432;&#7903;ng ti&ecirc;u c&#7921;c &#273;&#7871;n l&ograve;ng t&#7921; t&ocirc;n c&#7911;a m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i. N&#7871;u m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i &#273;&atilde; t&#7915;ng &#273;&#7855;m ch&igrave;m trong s&#7921; &acirc;u lo, anh ta/c&ocirc; ta s&#7869; d&#7877; b&#7883; t&#7893;n th&#432;&#417;ng h&#417;n ng&#432;&#7901;i th&#432;&#7901;ng &#273;&#7875; r&#7891;i t&#7921; c&ocirc; b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&igrave;nh v&#7899;i ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c v&agrave; tr&aacute;nh tuy&#7879;t &#273;&#7889;i b&#7845;t k&#7923; m&#7889;i quan h&#7879; y&ecirc;u &#273;&#432;&#417;ng n&agrave;o.&nbsp;Tri&#7879;u ch&#7913;ng c&#7911;a h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng s&#7907; y&ecirc;u&nbsp;Nh&#7919;ng tri&#7879;u ch&#7913;ng th&ocirc;ng th&#432;&#7901;ng c&#7911;a h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng n&agrave;y l&agrave;:&nbsp;C&#7921;c k&#7923; lo l&#7855;ng trong vi&#7879;c h&#7865;n h&ograve; y&ecirc;u &#273;&#432;&#417;ng v&#7899;i m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;cTh&#432;&#7901;ng xuy&ecirc;n k&igrave;m n&eacute;n c&#7843;m x&uacute;c th&#7853;t c&#7911;a m&igrave;nhHo&agrave;n to&agrave;n tr&aacute;nh lui t&#7899;i nh&#7919;ng n&#417;i c&oacute; nhi&#7873;u c&#7863;p &#273;&ocirc;i nh&#432; c&ocirc;ng vi&ecirc;n hay r&#7841;p chi&#7871;u phimL&atilde;ng tr&aacute;nh vi&#7879;c k&#7871;t h&ocirc;n v&agrave; kh&ocirc;ng &#273;&#7871;n d&#7921; &#273;&aacute;m c&#432;&#7899;i c&#7911;a nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;cC&ocirc; l&#7853;p b&#7843;n th&acirc;n v&#7899;i th&#7871; gi&#7899;i b&ecirc;n ngo&agrave;i do s&#7907; ph&#7843;i rung &#273;&#7897;ngNh&#7919;ng d&#7845;u hi&#7879;u v&#7873; th&#7875; ch&#7845;t nh&#432;: run r&#7849;y, nh&#7883;p tim t&#259;ng nhanh, kh&oacute; th&#7903;, &#273;&#7893; m&#7891; h&ocirc;i, ch&#7871;t &#273;&#7913;ng, bu&#7891;n n&ocirc;n, th&#7853;m ch&iacute; l&agrave; ng&#7845;t x&#7881;u khi &#273;&#7889;i m&#7863;t v&#7899;i b&#7845;t k&#7923; th&#7913; g&igrave; c&oacute; li&ecirc;n quan &#273;&#7871;n t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;uKhi n&agrave;o n&ecirc;n &#273;&#7871;n g&#7863;p b&aacute;c s&#297;?&nbsp;H&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng s&#7907; y&ecirc;u l&agrave; m&#7897;t trong nh&#7919;ng h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng k&#7923; l&#7841; nh&#7845;t trong c&aacute;c h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng &aacute;m &#7843;nh, song &#273;&#7891;ng th&#7901;i c&#361;ng nghi&ecirc;m tr&#7885;ng t&#432;&#417;ng &#273;&#432;&#417;ng. Ng&#432;&#7901;i m&#7855;c h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng n&agrave;y c&oacute; th&#7875; t&#7921; c&ocirc; l&#7853;p cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng c&#7911;a m&igrave;nh v&agrave; d&#7845;u k&iacute;n nh&#7919;ng n&#7895;i bu&#7891;n v&agrave;o s&acirc;u trong tim. N&#7871;u nh&#7919;ng d&#7845;u hi&#7879;u tr&ecirc;n &#273;&atilde; di&#7877;n ra trong m&#7897;t kho&#7843;ng th&#7901;i gian d&agrave;i, &#273;&#7911; &#273;&#7875; b&#7841;n &yacute; th&#7913;c &#273;&#432;&#7907;c &#273;i&#7873;u &#273;&oacute;, h&#417;n s&aacute;u th&aacute;ng m&#7897;t l&#7847;n, l&agrave;m r&#7889;i lo&#7841;n cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng th&#432;&#7901;ng nh&#7853;t th&igrave; &#273;&atilde; &#273;&#7871;n l&uacute;c b&#7841;n t&igrave;m &#273;&#7871;n b&aacute;c s&#297; t&#432; v&#7845;n.&nbsp;H&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng s&#7907; y&ecirc;u &#273;&#432;&#7907;c ch&#7919;a tr&#7883; nh&#432; th&#7871; n&agrave;o?&nbsp;Nh&#7919;ng li&#7879;u ph&aacute;p t&acirc;m l&yacute; v&agrave; m&#7897;t s&#7889; ph&#432;&#417;ng thu&#7889;c (ch&#7881; d&ugrave;ng trong m&#7897;t s&#7889; tr&#432;&#7901;ng h&#7907;p nh&#7845;t &#273;&#7883;nh r&#7845;t h&#7919;u d&#7909;ng trong vi&#7879;c &#273;i&#7873;u tr&#7883; h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng s&#7907; y&ecirc;u, c&#7909; th&#7875; l&agrave;:&nbsp;Li&#7879;u ph&aacute;p nh&#7853;n th&#7913;c &ndash; h&agrave;nh vi (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy &ndash; CBT)&nbsp;CBT c&oacute; l&#7869; l&agrave; li&#7879;u ph&aacute;p tr&#7883; li&#7879;u l&yacute; t&#432;&#7903;ng nh&#7845;t cho ng&#432;&#7901;i m&#7855;c h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng s&#7907; ph&#7843;i y&ecirc;u. Nh&igrave;n chung, nh&#7919;ng suy ngh&#297; th&#7847;m k&iacute;n v&agrave; s&#7921; t&#432;&#7903;ng t&#432;&#7907;ng v&#7873; nh&#7919;ng vi&#7877;n c&#7843;nh c&oacute; th&#7875; x&#7843;y ra khi sa v&agrave;o l&#432;&#7899;i t&igrave;nh l&agrave; nguy&ecirc;n nh&acirc;n ch&#7911; y&#7871;u cho m&#7889;i lo ng&#7841;i n&agrave;y. Ph&#432;&#417;ng ph&aacute;p CBT gi&uacute;p b&#7841;n nh&#7853;n ra nh&#7919;ng suy ngh&#297; &#273;&oacute; v&agrave; ch&uacute;ng &#273;&atilde; t&#7841;o ra n&#7895;i &aacute;m &#7843;nh cho b&#7841;n nh&#432; th&#7871; n&agrave;o. C&aacute;c chuy&ecirc;n vi&ecirc;n t&acirc;m l&yacute; s&#7869; h&#432;&#7899;ng cho b&#7841;n &#273;&#7871;n c&aacute;ch tr&ograve; chuy&#7879;n v&agrave; chia s&#7867; m&#7897;t c&aacute;ch th&#432;&#7901;ng tr&#7921;c h&#417;n v&agrave; thay &#273;&#7893;i c&#7843; quan ni&#7879;m c&#7911;a b&#7841;n v&#7873; t&igrave;nh y&ecirc;u. Ngo&agrave;i ra, c&aacute;c chuy&ecirc;n vi&ecirc;n c&ograve;n h&#432;&#7899;ng d&#7851;n b&#7841;n th&ocirc;ng qua vi&#7879;c x&acirc;y d&#7921;ng nh&#7919;ng h&agrave;nh vi t&iacute;ch c&#7921;c, gi&#7843;m nh&#7865; c&aacute;c m&#7889;i &acirc;u lo.&nbsp;Li&#7879;u ph&aacute;p nh&#7853;n th&#7913;c &ndash; h&agrave;nh vi b&#7857;ng vi&#7879;c &#273;&#7889;i m&#7863;t l&#7841;i v&#7899;i s&#7921; ki&#7879;n g&acirc;y ch&#7845;n th&#432;&#417;ng t&acirc;m l&yacute; (Exposure therapy)&nbsp;&#272;&acirc;y c&#361;ng l&agrave; m&#7897;t ph&#432;&#417;ng th&#7913;c ch&#7919;a tr&#7883; hi&#7879;u qu&#7843; v&#7899;i h&#7897;i ch&#7913;ng s&#7907; y&ecirc;u. C&aacute;c chuy&ecirc;n vi&ecirc;n t&#432; v&#7845;n s&#7869; m&ocirc; ph&#7887;ng l&#7841;i m&#7897;t khung c&#7843;nh t&#432;&#417;ng t&#7921; nh&#432; m&#7897;t bu&#7893;i h&#7865;n h&ograve; l&atilde;ng m&#7841;n; vi&#7879;c t&#432;&#417;ng t&aacute;c v&#7899;i ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c; ho&#7863;c m&#7897;t b&#7897; phim t&igrave;nh c&#7843;m l&atilde;ng m&#7841;n tr&#432;&#7899;c m&#7863;t ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7879;nh v&agrave; nghi&ecirc;n c&#7913;u xem h&#7885; s&#7869; ph&#7843;n &#7913;ng nh&#432; th&#7871; n&agrave;o. D&#7847;n d&#7847;n, ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7879;nh c&oacute; th&#7875; gi&#7843;m b&#7899;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c n&#7895;i &acirc;u lo v&agrave; s&#7921; s&#7907; h&atilde;i &#273;&#7871;n nh&#7919;ng c&#7843;nh t&#432;&#7907;ng t&igrave;nh c&#7843;m th&ocirc;ng qua nh&#7919;ng bi&#7875;u hi&#7879;n th&ocirc;ng th&#432;&#7901;ng.&nbsp;Thu&#7889;c&nbsp;Trong m&#7897;t s&#7889; tr&#432;&#7901;ng h&#7907;p, thu&#7889;c l&agrave; ph&#432;&#417;ng ph&aacute;p h&#7919;u hi&#7879;u trong vi&#7879;c ki&#7875;m so&aacute;t n&#7895;i bu&#7891;n c&#7911;a m&#7897;t ng&#432;&#7901;i. Lo&#7841;i thu&#7889;c th&#432;&#7901;ng &#273;&#432;&#7907;c s&#7917; d&#7909;ng &#273;&#7875; &#273;i&#7873;u tr&#7883; l&agrave; thu&#7889;c ch&#7889;ng tr&#7847;m c&#7843;m. 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