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[&ldquo;Ng&#432;&#7901;i ta &#273;&ocirc;i khi b&#7883; gi&#7871;t/ B&#7857;ng nh&#7919;ng b&oacute; hoa&rdquo;]<figure class="image"><img src="/upload/files/117947400_105566311271332_5457717572300677540_o.png"></figure>&#272;&atilde; bao gi&#7901; b&#7841;n c&#7843;m th&#7845;y b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&igrave;nh th&#7921;c s&#7921; r&#7845;t v&ocirc; d&#7909;ng, y&#7871;u k&eacute;m? &#272;&atilde; bao gi&#7901; b&#7841;n nghi ho&#7863;c ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh, cho r&#7857;ng m&igrave;nh l&agrave; ng&#432;&#7901;i th&#7915;a, k&#7867; khi&#7871;m khuy&#7871;t v&#7873; m&#7885;i m&#7863;t?Gi&#7919;a b&oacute;ng t&#7889;i khu r&#7915;ng m&agrave; ta nh&#7845;n ch&igrave;m m&igrave;nh trong nh&#7919;ng suy ngh&#297; ti&ecirc;u c&#7921;c &#7845;y, l&#7901;i khen, h&agrave;nh &#273;&#7897;ng t&aacute;n d&#432;&#417;ng, ch&uacute;c t&#7909;ng t&#7921;a tia n&#7855;ng &#7845;m th&#7855;p s&aacute;ng mu&ocirc;n hoa, c&#7913;u r&#7895;i ta kh&#7887;i b&#7901; v&#7921;c c&#7911;a s&#7921; th&#7845;t v&#7885;ng. D&ugrave; ch&#7881; l&agrave; m&#7897;t ch&uacute;t th&ocirc;i, s&#7921; c&ocirc;ng nh&#7853;n c&#7911;a ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c t&#7921;a ch&#7845;t doping v&ocirc; h&igrave;nh, k&iacute;ch ho&#7841;t s&#7913;c m&#7841;nh ti&#7873;m &#7849;n khi&#7871;n con ng&#432;&#7901;i ta h&#432;ng ph&#7845;n, t&#7921; tin v&agrave; c&#7843;m th&#7845;y b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&igrave;nh l&#7845;p l&aacute;nh t&#7921;a v&igrave; sao s&aacute;ng tr&ecirc;n b&#7847;u tr&#7901;i.Tuy nhi&ecirc;n, c&oacute; ph&#7843;i l&uacute;c n&agrave;o l&#7901;i ch&uacute;c t&#7909;ng c&#361;ng l&agrave; nh&#7919;ng b&oacute; hoa t&#432;&#417;i th&#7855;m v&agrave; v&ocirc; h&#7841;i? Hay ch&iacute;nh con ng&#432;&#7901;i, v&igrave; qu&aacute; m&#7843;i m&ecirc; &#273;&#7855;m ch&igrave;m v&agrave;o h&#432;&#417;ng th&#417;m, thanh s&#7855;c c&#7911;a nh&#7919;ng b&oacute; hoa &#7845;y m&agrave; d&#7847;n &#273;&#7849;y ng&atilde; ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh v&agrave;o d&#7889;c c&#7911;a s&#7921; t&#7921; m&atilde;n, ng&agrave;y c&agrave;ng l&uacute;n s&acirc;u v&agrave;o v&#361;ng b&ugrave;n "th&#7845;t b&#7841;i" ?I. B&oacute; hoa ch&uacute;c t&#7909;ng t&#432;&#7903;ng ch&#7915;ng v&ocirc; h&#7841;i, nh&#432;ng l&#7841;i c&oacute; h&#7841;i &#273;&#7871;n b&#7845;t th&#432;&#7901;ng, nguy&ecirc;n nh&acirc;n do &#273;&acirc;u?Tr&#432;&#7899;c ti&ecirc;n, nguy&ecirc;n nh&acirc;n ch&#7911; quan xu&#7845;t ph&aacute;t t&#7915; s&acirc;u b&ecirc;n trong b&#7843;n t&iacute;nh c&#7911;a con ng&#432;&#7901;i, nh&#432; William Jame &#273;&atilde; t&#7915;ng n&oacute;i:"Nguy&ecirc;n l&iacute; s&acirc;u xa nh&#7845;t trong b&#7843;n t&iacute;nh con ng&#432;&#7901;i l&agrave; s&#7921; khao kh&aacute;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c t&aacute;n th&#432;&#7903;ng". Ai ai c&#361;ng mong mu&#7889;n &#273;&#432;&#7907;c ch&#7913;ng t&#7887; kh&#7843; n&#259;ng c&#7911;a b&#7843;n th&acirc;n m&igrave;nh, ao &#432;&#7899;c s&#7921; c&ocirc;ng nh&#7853;n, th&#7853;m ch&iacute; cao h&#417;n l&agrave; khen th&#432;&#7903;ng, ng&#432;&#7905;ng m&#7897; &#273;&#7871;n t&#7915; m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i xung quanh. Ch&iacute;nh v&igrave; v&#7853;y, khi &#273;&#432;&#7907;c trao cho nh&#7919;ng b&oacute; hoa ch&uacute;c t&#7909;ng, con ng&#432;&#7901;i ta c&#7843;m th&#7845;y m&igrave;nh th&#7853;t c&oacute; gi&aacute; tr&#7883;, h&#7885; m&ecirc; man trong h&#7841;nh ph&uacute;c l&#7899;n lao &#273;&#432;&#7907;c m&#7885;i ng&#432;&#7901;i y&ecirc;u qu&yacute;, khen ng&#7907;i m&igrave;nh.M&#7897;t c&#7845;p &#273;&#7897; ti&ecirc;u c&#7921;c h&#417;n c&#7911;a khao kh&aacute;t &#273;&#432;&#7907;c t&aacute;n th&#432;&#7903;ng, &#7845;y ch&iacute;nh l&agrave; "h&#432; vinh". Con ng&#432;&#7901;i v&#7889;n d&#297; th&iacute;ch h&#432; vinh m&#7863;c d&ugrave; &#273;&ocirc;i khi h&#7885; kh&ocirc;ng nh&#7853;n ra &#273;i&#7873;u &#273;&oacute;, th&#7871; n&ecirc;n m&#7899;i c&oacute; c&acirc;u: "B&#7843; vinh hoa l&#7915;a g&atilde; c&ocirc;ng khanh". "B&oacute; hoa ch&uacute;c t&#7909;ng" khi &#273;&#432;&#7907;c trao trong tr&#432;&#7901;ng h&#7907;p n&agrave;y s&#7869; tr&#7903; th&agrave;nh "chi&#7871;c b&#7851;y ng&#7885;t ng&agrave;o" m&agrave; bi&#7871;t bao con ng&#432;&#7901;i mu&#7889;n lao v&agrave;o "s&#7853;p b&#7851;y". Ngay gi&acirc;y ph&uacute;t n&agrave;y &#273;&acirc;y, h&#7885; ch&#7881; mu&#7889;n &#273;&#7855;m ch&igrave;m v&agrave;o nh&#7919;ng "b&oacute; hoa &#273;&#7847;y m&#7853;t c&aacute;m d&#7895;", th&iacute;ch &#273;&#432;&#7907;c vu&#7889;t ve, th&#7887;a m&atilde;n, th&iacute;ch c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c m&#7895;i ng&agrave;y &#273;&#7873;u l&acirc;ng l&acirc;ng trong nh&#7919;ng l&#7901;i ch&uacute;c t&#7909;ng. Ch&#7881; c&#7847;n l&agrave; nh&#7919;ng l&#7901;i khen c&oacute; c&aacute;nh, ta &#273;&#7873;u ti&#7871;p nh&#7853;n n&oacute; v&#7899;i m&#7897;t tr&aacute;i tim ng&acirc;y th&#417; r&#7897;ng m&#7903; v&agrave; kh&ocirc;ng &#273;&#7873; ph&ograve;ng. C&oacute; l&#7869; r&#7857;ng, nh&#7919;ng l&#7901;i khen &#7845;y, gi&#7889;ng nh&#432; b&agrave;i h&aacute;t ru tuy&#7879;t v&#7901;i &#273;&#432;a ta bay l&ecirc;n t&#7853;n ch&iacute;n t&#7847;ng m&acirc;y.II. T&aacute;c h&#7841;i c&#7911;a vi&#7879;c &#273;&#7855;m ch&igrave;m trong nh&#7919;ng b&oacute; hoa ch&uacute;c t&#7909;ng:Nh&#7919;ng b&oacute; hoa ch&uacute;c t&#7909;ng khi&#7871;n con ng&#432;&#7901;i t&#7921; m&atilde;n, ki&ecirc;u ng&#7841;o, h&#7885; qu&ecirc;n m&#7845;t m&igrave;nh l&agrave; ai, &#7903; &#273;&acirc;u. "Ki&ecirc;u c&#259;ng l&agrave; b&atilde;i c&aacute;t l&uacute;n c&#7911;a l&iacute; tr&iacute;", ng&#432;&#7901;i t&#7921; m&atilde;n d&#7847;n d&#7847;n &#273;&aacute;nh m&#7845;t th&aacute;i &#273;&#7897; c&#7847;u ti&#7871;n, kh&ocirc;ng c&ograve;n mu&#7889;n n&#7895; l&#7921;c, kh&ocirc;ng c&ograve;n mu&#7889;n &#273;i l&ecirc;n. Nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i b&#7883; n&#7883;nh h&oacute;t c&#7913; t&#432;&#7903;ng m&igrave;nh l&agrave; t&agrave;i gi&#7887;i nh&#7845;t v&agrave; &#273;&#7891;ng th&#7901;i v&#7899;i &#273;&oacute;, h&#7885; s&#7869; sinh ra th&oacute;i xem th&#432;&#7901;ng nh&#7919;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i xung quanh."Th&#7913; &#273;&#7897;c d&#432;&#7907;c nguy hi&#7875;m nh&#7845;t l&agrave; c&#7843;m gi&aacute;c th&agrave;nh t&#7921;u", th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng con ng&#432;&#7901;i, c&oacute; l&uacute;c n&acirc;ng ta bay l&ecirc;n t&#7853;n tr&#7901;i xanh, c&#361;ng s&#7869; kh&ocirc;ng thi&#7871;u khi d&igrave;m ta xu&#7889;ng &#273;&#7883;a ng&#7909;c. V&agrave; h&agrave;o quang c&#7911;a qu&aacute; kh&#7913; &#7845;y, s&#7869; l&agrave; th&#7913; &aacute;nh s&aacute;ng nh&ograve;e m&#7855;t cay, b&#7903;i ta &#273;&atilde; kh&ocirc;ng c&ograve;n l&agrave; ta c&#7911;a ng&agrave;y h&ocirc;m qua, b&#7903;i h&ocirc;m nay, ta &#273;&atilde; ch&igrave;m s&acirc;u trong t&#7845;n bi k&#7883;ch th&#7845;t b&#7841;i m&#7845;t r&#7891;i.III. V&#7853;y l&agrave;m th&#7871; n&agrave;o &#273;&#7875; kh&ocirc;ng sa ng&atilde; khi "&ocirc;m nh&#7919;ng b&oacute; hoa ch&uacute;c t&#7909;ng"?Kh&ocirc;ng m&#7897;t ai c&oacute; th&#7875; ph&#7911; nh&#7853;n r&#7857;ng nh&#7919;ng b&oacute; hoa ch&uacute;c t&#7909;ng v&#7899;i s&#7921; th&#7853;t t&acirc;m, ch&acirc;n c&#7843;m c&oacute; &yacute; ngh&#297;a v&ocirc; c&ugrave;ng l&#7899;n lao trong c&#7893; v&#361;, kh&iacute;ch l&#7879; s&#7921; n&#7895; l&#7921;c c&#7911;a con ng&#432;&#7901;i."L&#7901;i khen c&#361;ng gi&#7889;ng nh&#432; v&agrave;ng v&agrave; kim c&#432;&#417;ng, &#273;&aacute;ng qu&yacute; v&igrave; n&oacute; hi&#7871;m" (Samuel Johnson). N&#7871;u con ng&#432;&#7901;i ta bi&#7871;t tr&acirc;n tr&#7885;ng nh&#7919;ng l&#7901;i khen, bi&#7871;n n&oacute; tr&#7903; th&agrave;nh &#273;&#7897;ng l&#7921;c &#273;&#7875; r&egrave;n luy&#7879;n b&#7843;n th&acirc;n th&igrave; &#273;i&#7873;u &#273;&oacute; qu&#7843; th&#7921;c s&#7869; khi&#7871;n cu&#7897;c s&#7889;ng th&ecirc;m g&#7855;n k&#7871;t v&agrave; h&#7841;nh ph&uacute;c.Con ng&#432;&#7901;i ta mu&#7889;n x&iacute;ch l&#7841;i g&#7847;n nhau, h&atilde;y d&agrave;nh cho nhau nh&#7919;ng l&#7901;i khen th&#7853;t l&ograve;ng. &#272;&#7915;ng n&ecirc;n c&#7889; n&#7863;n ra nh&#7919;ng l&#7901;i xu n&#7883;nh s&aacute;o r&#7895;ng, th&#7893;i ph&#7891;ng th&#7921;c t&#7871; &#273;&#7875; m&#432;u c&#7847;u l&#7907;i t&#432;, l&agrave;m v&#7915;a l&ograve;ng ng&#432;&#7901;i kh&aacute;c. &#272;&oacute; l&agrave; th&oacute;i x&#7845;u t&#7879; h&#7841;i nh&#7845;t, m&agrave; h&#7853;u qu&#7843; ch&iacute;nh l&agrave; con ng&#432;&#7901;i ta s&#7869; ph&#7843;i &#273;&aacute;nh &#273;&#7893;i m&#7885;i &#273;i&#7873;u t&#7889;t &#273;&#7865;p m&agrave; ch&uacute;ng ta lu&ocirc;n c&#7889; g&#7855;ng vun &#273;&#7855;p, g&acirc;y d&#7921;ng.Th&agrave;nh c&ocirc;ng nh&#432; m&#7897;t ng&#7885;n n&uacute;i c&#7913; v&#432;&#417;n cao h&#417;n sau m&#7895;i l&#7847;n tr&egrave;o l&ecirc;n. V&#7853;y n&ecirc;n h&atilde;y lu&ocirc;n t&#7881;nh t&aacute;o, &#273;&#7915;ng bao gi&#7901; th&#7887;a m&atilde;n v&#7899;i ch&iacute;nh m&igrave;nh m&agrave; h&atilde;y c&#7889; g&#7855;ng h&#417;n n&#7919;a. M&igrave;nh c&ugrave;ng b&#7841;n, ch&uacute;ng ta c&oacute; th&#7875; kh&ocirc;ng bao gi&#7901; tr&#7903; th&agrave;nh phi&ecirc;n b&#7843;n t&#7889;t nh&#7845;t, nh&#432;ng h&atilde;y nh&iacute;ch l&ecirc;n t&#7915;ng ch&uacute;t, t&#7915;ng ch&uacute;t m&#7897;t &#273;&#7875; tr&#7903; th&agrave;nh phi&ecirc;n b&#7843;n t&#7889;t h&#417;n m&#7895;i ng&agrave;y. M&igrave;nh tin, ch&uacute;ng ta s&#7869; l&agrave;m &#273;&#432;&#7907;c!

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